THE INTEGRATED WAY: LEARN TO LOSE TO BE FREE

Growing up we were taught how to acquire. Acquire attention, acceptance, skills, education, relationships, status, accolades, a career, material possessions, finances, hopes, dreams, expectations…the list goes on and on.

FINDING HAPPINESS

The sources that we learn from about acquiring include our parents, education systems, social channels, and the advertising industry through marketing campaigns that focus on finding happiness and meaning through the acquisition of things.

WE LOSE We have little to no education on what to do when we lose what we have acquired. Loss is an aspect in life that we will encounter on many fronts and times. Despite this aspect of life, we receive no formal training on how to respond to events that will eventually happen and be a source of pain and disruption.

WE LOSE, AGAIN When an event does happen, we may hear/say to ourselves “What’s done is done.” “You’ve just got to move on.” “Just don’t think about it.” “Don’t complain about it. No one wants to hear it.”

A NEW HABIT, LOSE TO BE FREE Okay, so what can we do about this? Start by identifying the habitual ideas and talk that appear when you encounter a loss. Any loss! This is a habit. And, the good thing is that any habit can be replaced by learning a new habit. The new habit can be one that is helpful for dealing with a loss