THE INTEGRATED WAY: REPLACE THE LOSS...IT NOT A WAY

You’ve endued a heartbreak. Perhaps a breakup or divorce. And you’ve expressed your heartbreak. Perhaps over and over again. Then a friend/family says something like “You just need to date again!” “It’s been long enough!” “She was not worth it anyway!” You feel a type of support from the well-intended family/friend. You may feel different, not better. In fact, you may feel that your emotions just got stomped on. You may start dating again. And again. And again. Dating does not grant you the healing for the emotional incompleteness stemming from the heartbreak. It can serve as an action to replace the loss. And, that's about it. What remains unresolved is the heartbreak. There’s an emotional incompleteness that it still there. And the expression of sharing the heartbreak over and over may be coming from feeling that you’ve not been heard. Resolving the emotional incompleteness grants you the platform of being heard and the space for getting emotionally complete.